When Your Shelter-in-Place Is Not a Shelter (Dale Kuiken)

For many of us, the novel coronavirus pandemic has brought significant anxiety. Some handle it well, and are taking advantage of some wonderful family time, togetherness, or getting caught up on things around the home. But sadly, for others, it can increase fear and present more danger.

To those of you who are already suffering in a relationship where there is some form of domestic abuse, whether that is emotional, physical, spiritual, or financial, being in the home 24/7 adds an extra level of distress, because the person you share your shelter with brings you great fear. You feel on edge, nervous, and unsettled. And in moments of honesty, you know why. We all have God-given signals that help us move toward safety, and we are wise to heed them (Prov 22:3). We know when we are not safe from genuine threats, because our bodies feel it acutely. 

On top of these dangers, in these times you face the prospect of isolation from the support of others in the body of Christ, you may lack a safe place to go to, and you carry the added stress of catching the coronavirus. It all just feels unbearable.

We at Blue Ridge Christian Counseling would like to remind you that we are still open, via video sessions and phone calls, to support you and help you. We invite you to not suffer alone, but to reach out to us and to those who love you. Indeed, this is a very difficult situation. We know this, and would like to offer you care. We believe and recognize that God has a heart for those who are oppressed and is concerned about your safety and well being. 

For women particularly, please note as well, that the local offices for domestic abuse in Roanoke are also open and available to serve you as well. 

The Roanoke Times has posted an article listing local resources for those in crisis or more immediate need: “Domestic Violence Resources Still Available During Virus Crisis” by Alicia Petska.

If we can assist you in any way, please don’t hesitate to call us. We’d love to pray with you and for you, and do whatever we can do to serve you at this time.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Rom 15:13).